As mentioned in my previous blog, I wanted to pass off some knowledge to you on something I had also learned.
I took a brain health course and what was so interesting about this course is the ability to teach your brain to be less stressed. It isn’t “hocus-pocus” magic. You can’t just tell your brain, “Brain, don’t be stressed”. Here is what is so interesting about the psyche: you are capable of learning something new every day of your life. Even a brain that has experienced physical damage or trauma is capable of developing and forming new neural pathways for learning. Something else is that your brain is a very useful device when it comes to managing stress. As a matter of fact, it is the primary source, the main component of how we eliminate frustrations from our daily lives. The rest is a decision. Have you ever heard someone say, “It’s all in your head”? They are right! Many people do not realize it, but the brain is an extremely powerful tool. It’s responsible for the signals being sent to and fro throughout the body for when we have been injured, how our emotions are calculated and even the function of our 5 senses. You can discover things about yourself you may not have known before. And in this case, the ability to develop and strengthen neural pathways. Ok, ok…so I know you are probably thinking, “We are not in science class right now” and I don’t want you to feel like you’re in class. But just hear me out and if not, then that is okay too! I will do my best to make this interesting for you 🙂
Do you recall the scripture I mentioned in the previous blog? The one that says, “So a man thinketh, so is he”? This is also your mind at work. It is called Neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity is “the brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life” (https://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=40362). How is neuroplasticity relevant to managing stress? And how is it relevant to Proverbs 23:7? In the previous blog, I created a list of things that help me when I am feeling insecure. I mentioned things like watching a movie or dressing my best even when, emotionally, I don’t have the energy to do it. Being insecure creates a level of stress that is sometimes debilitating and can really crush you mentally and emotionally. But you can wire your brain to create self-security by engaging in positive practices. Positive practices such as the ones I just mentioned. You have to practice your self-security daily and make a habit out of it…even when it is hard to do. The more you engage in a positive outlook of yourself, the more your brain will strengthen that neural pathway and soon enough it becomes your life. It becomes the very being that you are. “So a man thinketh, so is he”…
Let me share something with you all…
I struggled with such a low level of security, some days it almost seemed like it would kill me…literally. I LITERALLY felt like I would eventually die of a heart attack or something because I was always stressed out and frustrated with myself. Did you know insecurity even comes out in your ability to socialize or develop relationships? This was also me. Having a prolonged exposure to self-doubt lead to other negative behaviors. I was angry all the time because of the outlook I had on myself. I didn’t like anyone (even if they didn’t know it). And I often wore a specific expression on my face to keep people from approaching me. I mean the list goes on and on. At some point (which I will share in a future blog) it became so overwhelming I knew I needed to make a decision. The decision to either carry on like this and die like this OR change my way of thinking and how I view myself and die knowing I did my best. I decided it was time to fight. It was time to change. It was time to LIVE! Hence the course I took on brain health. Mental health is just as important as any other health you manage to upkeep. But I feel like it is the one thing most people tend to neglect. YOUR BRAIN IS IMPORTANT!
And so back to what I was originally saying, create a list for yourself and hold yourself accountable to it. If you know you will not be able to do it consistently, discuss it with a friend, loved one, family member or someone whom you know has your best interest at heart. The problem we often have is taking the first step. But I tip my hat off to you for being here on this site because you being here means you want better for yourself. This is your first step. Now that I am giving you the tools, take the next step and create a list. It can be small things, just like how mine is. It can be something so small such as placing a sticky note on your mirror with the words, “I love me” written on it.
And just know it is not going to be easy, but I am a living testimony to say IT IS WORTH IT!
Love yourself today…and forever more ❤